Comments on: A Concerning Trend in Japanese Dramas /2019/01/14/a-concerning-trend-in-japanese-dramas/ "Lock up your libraries if you like; but there is no gate, no lock, no bolt that you can set upon the freedom of my mind." - Virginia Woolf Wed, 24 Jun 2020 14:32:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: 达宁 /2019/01/14/a-concerning-trend-in-japanese-dramas/comment-page-1/#comment-8654 Wed, 24 Jun 2020 14:32:03 +0000 http://madamewriterblog.com/?p=4435#comment-8654 I don’t really see the problem with it as long as the teacher isn’t forcing the student then it’s perfectly fine for them to be together. It’s basically free love as long as they both consent then they should be together. It’s nothing bad or wrong it’s just a cultural difference in a lot of other countries (Japan and China). These things certainly aren’t out of the ordinary (but not super common either). Look at it like this if people spend a lot of time together 9 months out of the year for 3 or 4 years they are bound to fall in love right?

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]]> By: Madame Writer /2019/01/14/a-concerning-trend-in-japanese-dramas/comment-page-1/#comment-7331 Thu, 26 Dec 2019 20:00:19 +0000 http://madamewriterblog.com/?p=4435#comment-7331 In reply to samara.

Well, I won’t comment on lesbian and gay relationships, but I think there is a big difference between what two consenting adults do (adults as in their brains are fully formed, which doesn’t happen until a person is about 21) and a sexual relationship between a 12 year old and 28 year old. Saying that, I have no issue with couples who have a wide age gap (many people in my own family were a decade or more apart when they married), but the issue is more between a child who cannot truly consent and an adult.

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]]> By: Madame Writer /2019/01/14/a-concerning-trend-in-japanese-dramas/comment-page-1/#comment-7330 Thu, 26 Dec 2019 19:57:01 +0000 http://madamewriterblog.com/?p=4435#comment-7330 In reply to samara.

I have given most things thought, because I’m a history major. I suppose I look at it from the psychological perspective. I’m not an expert on the topic, but long ago (1) people didn’t live as long so they needed to marry younger and (2) life was simpler so there were not as many societal complexities to effect someone that age. There are some places around the world even now who engage in child marriages (a disturbing tradition, in my opinion, but I won’t get off topic). One of the issues specifically with teacher/student relationships is that (I believe I mentioned this in my post) a teacher is in a power position over the student, making the bound between them dangerous both because of difference in age and in societal status. There are some psychological studies about the long-term psychological impact on young people when they engage in sexual relationships with someone older. Often times it can negatively impact all their relationships for the rest of their life. So I definitely stand by my original point that relationships between teachers and students is not good, whether the student in 12 or 18.

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]]> By: samara /2019/01/14/a-concerning-trend-in-japanese-dramas/comment-page-1/#comment-7328 Thu, 26 Dec 2019 17:20:43 +0000 http://madamewriterblog.com/?p=4435#comment-7328 I forgot to mention something : I find it very ridiculous that we live in a world that permits lesbian and gay relationships and marriage – which I believe are abnormal relations and against nature – yet when it comes to man and woman – which is the nature- it forbidds the relation just due to age gap !! How Ironic

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]]> By: samara /2019/01/14/a-concerning-trend-in-japanese-dramas/comment-page-1/#comment-7327 Thu, 26 Dec 2019 14:25:21 +0000 http://madamewriterblog.com/?p=4435#comment-7327 In reply to Madame Writer.

Glad to find that another person have noticed the same as me..I found really weird that they keep making these drama abt student/teacher relationships..may be it’s something abt their culture as the comments here said..but let me give another point of view on the topic : I realize very clearly that should be boundaries bet teacher and a student but I asked my self also ; who invented these words : minor,,adult ? and why should one called an adult only if he became 18 ? is it becoz our growth stops there ? does that mean that a man -yeah a man – from 15 or even 14 and up can’t get a woman pregnant if he had a relationship with her ?? it’s maybe weird to say this in our age but give it thought ! in old ages even kings and queens tend to get married at a young age ? so why not a relationship ? is becoz the barrier of respect that should be there bet a student and a teacher?? again why 18 to be an adult ? why the word “minor” ? didnt we invent these words ??
I know my comment sounds weird and freak but it give it a Thought

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]]> By: Madame Writer /2019/01/14/a-concerning-trend-in-japanese-dramas/comment-page-1/#comment-3854 Sun, 27 Jan 2019 16:13:34 +0000 http://madamewriterblog.com/?p=4435#comment-3854 In reply to Annie.

I agree! I think “younger women and older men” tropes aren’t necessarily bad (if the woman is an adult), but to have a romance between a teen and an adult man is totally disturbing!

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]]> By: Annie /2019/01/14/a-concerning-trend-in-japanese-dramas/comment-page-1/#comment-3852 Sun, 27 Jan 2019 04:22:21 +0000 http://madamewriterblog.com/?p=4435#comment-3852 There’s a more recent one that takes it a step further: a 17-year old student falling for a 40-year old man. I believe it was originally an animé or manga. Not sure how that story ended, but the popularity of these dramas could be due to the “younger women and older man” romance culture. And while that trope pairing isn’t necessarily problematic, animé, manga, and live action tends to exaggerates it in that it becomes too much and disturbing.

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]]> By: Madame Writer /2019/01/14/a-concerning-trend-in-japanese-dramas/comment-page-1/#comment-3754 Wed, 16 Jan 2019 04:35:03 +0000 http://madamewriterblog.com/?p=4435#comment-3754 In reply to 陆河.

I could not agree more. Everything can, and probably should be discussed in all forms of media. It is a way to examine topics we know little of ourselves, though it depends if it is portrayed in a realistic way, or presents a picture which is not real.

And I agree that all dramas and movies are a form of daydreaming. We like to live vicariously through a character. And yes, Japanese culture does love adorable, tiny things! I want to learn more about the Japanese culture in general.

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]]> By: 陆河 /2019/01/14/a-concerning-trend-in-japanese-dramas/comment-page-1/#comment-3753 Wed, 16 Jan 2019 03:39:35 +0000 http://madamewriterblog.com/?p=4435#comment-3753 It seems this sort of pure love trope is common in Janpanese dramas. They have a tendency to show forbidden love. Some are glorified as pure love which is quite ideal while some are really extreme ( and even disgusting). I once read a book on Janpanese culture that said Janpanese culture has a penchant for little, tiny and cute things. Does it have anything to do with the trope?
And one of my friends told me many Janpanese are living a stifling life with much pressure. Perhaps these tropes are ways to combat boring everyday life? After all, to some degree dramas and movies are a form of daydreaming.

I think everything can be discussed in books, TV shows, movies and other forms of arts. My teacher said literature is where an author reveal and discuss problems and then try to put forward a solution in an imaginative way. I agree that it’s more meaningful to portray the forbidden love in different perspectives instead of just glorifying it.

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]]> By: Madame Writer /2019/01/14/a-concerning-trend-in-japanese-dramas/comment-page-1/#comment-3750 Tue, 15 Jan 2019 17:45:49 +0000 http://madamewriterblog.com/?p=4435#comment-3750 In reply to alicegristle.

I could not agree more! The rape trope is especially disturbing, as in many films it is made not as bad as it actually is.

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